There are a number of reasons that sex is so free and easy in this society.

In the “s the Hippies preached, “IF it feels good, Do it!”   Love love love all you need is love.

But they had kids out of wedlock, and some of those kids are in “divorced” units because of the lack of commitment.  Another reason it is so easy to get sex is because girls today don’t have parents to guard them from men who are our to please themselves and vise versa. Arranged marriages were the thing of the past and so again, you didn’t see the spouse to be in such circumstances as would permit having sex. So.. now people in the “heat of the moment” have no safe guards in place to protect them…  Protection IS a loving thing. Now the only safe guard is one’s ‘self’ and how safe is that when one’s self is “weak”?  That is why DivorceCare videos promote group situations for your future… or thinking ahead how not to be alone… etc. And of course the ENEMY of the SOUL has laid years of ground work to promote a perverted view of sex and satisfaction…. so much so that men could sing, “I don’t get no, satisfaction, I don’t get no, girly action… and I try… and I try and I try and I try……   And this was a HIT on the public radio.


Men give away Cuddling Kisses Hugs and Whispers of Sweet Nothings, for Sex.

Women give away Sex, in exchange for Cuddling Kisses Hugs and Whispers of Sweet Nothings.

Girl… you say, “Oh what I wouldn’t do for a hug tonight!

Well…. He quietly thinks to himself,  “what I wouldn’t do for a climax tonight!”

Girls, is it, I ask,  right you should get your satisfaction met and he, not?

Be ye “Kind” and “Safe” to one another… for this is Real “Love”…

..In group one of our gals very recently was painfully honest and open about her past,

her testimony is priceless and sad. She asked her now soon to be X-husband of  more then 25 yrs,…

” Would you have married me if I had not of given you sex before marriage?” 

His answer. “Probably not.”  

Had she have held to this boundary, chances are she would have married a man who truly would have been

committed to her and her children… or never married at all, which would have spared her this particular pain.

Is “sex” worth all this?  I am not against sex! But it isn’t all its cracked up to be either! It is a very very

temporary high. It is not the premise upon which we should marry or date.  Sex is the Blessing of a harvest of

Truth and God’s kind of Love. However, Satan has deceived many today… Through songs, movies, porn, lies,

deceit, books, philosophy, immorality, rebellion, selfishness, self-centeredness, jealousy, disobedience,

carelessness, evil ploys, and wickedness. (what is wickedness?)  Broad is the way that leads to destruction!

Satan is all about destroy happiness, family, love…hurt the people, keep them from God!  Yeah Jesus died for

them, but no, lets keep them from Him! “Yeah, another one bites the dust!” the Enemy of our Soul says.

Narrow is the way to doing what is right, it is lonely except for Jesus companionship ans that of others

following Him. Only this route will get you to the true home-run! the Holy Spirit says.

Sex… sex…. Sex yeah lets think about sex.

Chapter 10: Single Sexuality

Chapter 10: Single Sexuality

If you find yourself tempted, ask God to speak to your heart. Ultimately, He’s who you’ll have to answer to. And if you place your trust in Him, I know that you will find Him faithful; faithful to you and faithful to His plan for you life. Don’t miss Him and miss His best for you.

If you become involved in a sexual relationship with someone you are not married to, or even if you decide to begin dating before you are divorced, you’ll likely start realizing that you are hiding from just about everyone. We talked about Adam and Eve in the garden, after they had given in to their temptation, tried to “hide” from God. If you truly believe that God is in this, why are you hiding? Why are you hiding from family, hiding from friends who care about you- you’re probably even trying to hide from God.

We talked a little before about rebounding, even in the Finance video discussion. Rebounding from the pain and trying to make ourselves feel better by buying stuff; clothing, jewelry, a new car. It’s often the same situation with our newly single sexuality. We’ve been rejected by the one person who promised that they wouldn’t– the one person that we counted on to be by our side. Wasn’t I (fill in the blank) enough? And it cuts us to the core. But what we really need, despite the recommendations of others, is to focus on ourselves and get comfortable in our singleness, be open to what God is teaching us, heal up from this hurt, and leave all that baggage behind, rather than bringing that into a new relationship.

Here’s my point- indulgence in a sexual relationship outside of marriage results in, most important to this discussion, a screwed-up relationship with God. Sure, you reject the friends and family that disagree with you, and have counseled against this, and eventually you’ll find other “friends” who won’t challenge you in your walk– friends who “just accept you”- yes, it’s easy to find replacements like that; the path of least resistance and all. “I’ll surround myself with people who make me feel good about my sin.” Nobody would admit to that, but thats what we do. These sorts of “friends” are all around us. But, you won’t be able to silence God’s voice. How long can you ignore that?

I don’t know how long I could hold out, either, so please know that we have a real heart of compassion for you. But please also know that I’m praying for you all that God’s grace would abound to you and that YOU would abound in grace, too.

DATING and the Single Parent

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Single parents who are dating or want to begin a dating relationship wonder, How will dating affect my children and my parenting? They probably have figured out that “dating in a crowd” is complicated. Now they’re looking for help.

Ron Deal, who has counseled single parents and remarried couples for many years, helps single parents – as well as those who date them – navigate the potential pitfalls involved. He gives perspective on when a relationship may be harmful to the children as well as how it can be a blessing to all. Always at the forefront is the goal of strengthening families. Includes questions for individual or group study.

Are you Feeding the right Wolf?


The Two Wolves Within

An old Cherokee told his grandson
‘Two wolves rage within us,

One is Evil, it has many names:
Anger, envy, jealousy,
Sorrow, regret, greed,
Arrogance, self-pity, guilt,
Resentment, inferiority, lies,
False-pride, superiority and ego.

The other is Good, it has many hues:
Joy, peace, love, hope,
Serenity, humility, kindness,
Benevolence, empathy, generosity,
Truth, compassion and faith.’

The grandson thought for a minute
And asked: ‘Which Wolf wins?’
The Cherokee simply replied:
‘The one you feed!’
Author: Zoya Zaidi
Aligarh (UP), India
Copyright©: Zoya Zaidi



Barriers to Real…….

James MacDonald – Senior Pastor – Harvest Bible Chapel

You shall not make for yourself a carved image, or any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth. You shall not bow down to them or serve them.
—Exodus 20:4-5

When we allow anything to accumulate on the table of our heart and mind, occupying our time and attention in a worshipful way—that’s a problem. But sweeping all of those things off the table so only God remains as the object of our worship aligns with our ultimate reality. We are for Him, breathing for Him, living for Him, and spending our lives for Him. God in the center of our attention is the essence of worship.

The second commandment reminds us we have a capacity for creating idols and false gods: “You shall not make for yourself a carved image, or any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth. You shall not bow down to them or serve them.” Creating an idol isn’t just carving or molding an image. More often it’s placing godlike values on something that can’t possibly accomplish what only God can do. Whenever we worship what is created instead of our Creator, we end up with nothing but trouble. The warning in this commandment is one of the reasons we come to church: to sweep our idols off the table.

So what most often distracts our worship from God? We asked 100 people and here are the top five answers:

5. Our families. We can let our children or our spouse get in the place of God. Our families are our God-given primary responsibility; that’s why they can never come before Him. If we make them more important than God, we’ve failed in what He wants us to do for them!

4. Money and posessions. We easily worship things instead of God. Jesus said, “Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth . . . For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also” (Matthew 6:19-21). When we worship God, we treasure Him and recognize His worth, but if we set our hearts on our treasure—our money, our posessions—it displaces God and we’re in trouble.

3. Sports figures and celebrities. We worship people when we think “Oh, if only I could be like him.” That’s worship. Do we recognize the convicting accuracy of a television program named American Idol? People are worshiping other people.

2. Our careers and accomplishments. We trust these fragile, temporal achievements to give our lives meaning and significance—the very qualities only God can supply.

1. Ourselves. We turn our needs and wants into our highest pursuit. When we won’t allow anyone, not even God, to get in the way of what we desire, we’re worshiping the idol in the mirror.

The discipline of worship is a deliberate act where we sweep clean the table of our hearts and remove all the false gods who would claim our worship. We gather with others in God’s presence and ask Him to burn away every worthless thing that would crowd out His rightful place. That’s worship at its best and it’s where God shows up in glory.

Read the five idol categories again. Where have you allowed something or someone to slip into God’s place in your life? Don’t hesitate—confess it and set that idol aside. Ask God to trigger a warning when the idol tempts you again. Thank Him for being the one true God in your life.

Barriers to Relationship….

Niceness Isn’t Always Nice


The price of always being nice …

1.     The “nice” person tends to create an atmosphere that keeps others from giving honest feedback.  This limits growth.

2.     The “nice” behavior leaves uncertainty in others in that they can not be sure of support in crisis situation that demand candor or in confrontation with others.

3.     “Nice” behavior stifles growth by depriving others level feedback and a “real” person to relate to.   This tends to force others to turn their aggression inward against themselves.  Guilt and depression can follow.

4.     The chronic “niceness” leaves others uncertain whether the relationship could withstand a conflict or sustain angry, spontaneous, confrontation.  Intimacy is limited by a felt need to be constantly on guard.

      5.      “Nice” guys are more subject to periodic rage explosions, which erupt                            unexpectedly when others are unprepared for it.

       6.     Physical ills can abound!

       Therefore, it’s not really nice to play nice!


What Does the Manual Say? Chapter 6


Marriage is a matter of life time commitment. It was a law put into place by God.  God wanted a place of security for “family”, for mothers and babes and Relationships.  Keep in mind that God came up with Laws, rules, or “just say No”, for reasons that are good for You, me the children and family, not for Himself! He put life into place and gave us instructions how it would work out best, considering He was going to pass out some ‘free-will’ too, I think He did a great loving thing here. However, That damned devil isn’t going to have it! I mean he isn’t going to Hell alone that is! He plans on stealing as many humans that Jesus died for, from Him as he can. Today, it looks like he is taking a lot with him.

Recently I heard a teaching from Adrian Rogers for which I had to go back and rewind the tapes numerous times to write down what was said:    

Adultery is a sin against the “Home”. Innocent children’s lives are torn apart every year by Adultery.  The man who commits adultery tells his child, ” your mother is not worth much.” And he tells his children, “Your father is a liar and a cheat.”  Furthermore, Honor is not nearly as important as pleasure. “In, fact my child, my own satisfaction and pleasure are more important than you are.” (And, of course, vice versa.)

God established monogamous marriage to meet the deepest emotion physical psychological & spiritual needs of a child. Children need a home and sexual faithfulness is the glue of the family which is the basic foundation of society.

Why is Adultery such a hurtful, heinous, damning, terrible hellish sin? Because Adultery is a sin against ‘Self’. (see Corinthians 6:18 Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body )  There is no sin that does as much damage physically and psychologically.  (Consider  STD’s, Aids, cancer, abortions, depression, mistrust, division, separation & divorce) oh, and  Safe sex?….   God’s sex wasn’t made to be dangerous!     (Romans 2:22   You who say that people should not commit adultery, do you commit adultery? You who abhor idols, do you rob temples? 23 You who boast in the law, do you dishonor God by breaking the law? 24 As it is written: “God’s name is blasphemed among the Gentiles because of you.)    …. end of insert sermon notes….

We who call ourselves Christians, we commit another form of adultery against Jesus (are we not His Bride?) when we put ourselves on the Throne in the middle of our “World”.  Or maybe when we put our Desires first, instead of God’s, our Pleasures,… our Happiness, our must watch TV even, before God… so everyone of us can hurt from adultery, but Jesus, God hurts too…Especially when He heard us commit to Him. What does our relational walk and talk glorify?