Ouch rejection hurts

Life in it’s daily turn of events , is full of teaching and learning events. How much are you aware of them?

Do you tune out the pain or the embarrassments and keep plunging full speed ahead?  Do you why God allows these issues in your life? Come really, do you have an answer? Do you think everything is the Enamy of our Soul doing this to us? Or do you turn to your TV to get away from it, or your food, or bury your nose in Face Book and constantly hunt and gaze  at emails and other social media? Or, maybe you are like me.. I shop!

Today I learned I did not get the extra job I wanted. Yep, I feel like crying a bit…just because my feelings are hurt that I was not “picked”.  However, my mind’s eye has turned it eye upward… to God the father whom I work for first. I feel that He is saying it is really OK…  You must curb your spending, you must rest better, you must take time to think of me and relate to me…and yes, have a healthier mine to work for me… I have other plans for you.

And so, I feel the pain…  the dissappointment and re-adjust my sails for the next appointment he has for me. I feel better… I am not being having a fit because things aren’t going my way…. matter of fact I am feeling more calm… I ake a deep sign and realizwe I will be happier about this later on tomoorw and even more so next week.

Thank you Lord that You control my future and want what is best for me.  amen.

T R O U B L E . . . .

Paul Tripp Ministries, Inc.

REMEMBER WITH SPECIFICITY

Two weeks ago I wrote to you about trouble. I may not know who you are or what your life has been like, but I can almost guarantee that trouble has paid a visit, is currently visiting, or will visit your life in some capacity.

When trouble comes, it’s vital that you talk to yourself. I teach this principle all the time – no one is more influential in your life than you are because no one talks to you as much as you do. What you say to you in moments of trouble will impact the way you respond.

David was a man well acquainted with trouble. Poor David; if you read the Psalms, he always seems to be in trouble! But in these moments, David was always talking to himself. We saw this in Psalm 27 – “The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? The Lord is the stronghold of my life; of whom shall I be afraid?” (Psalm 27:1)

There’s something else David did in times of trouble that’s very helpful; it’s found in Psalm 4 – “Answer me when I call, O God of my righteousness! You have given me relief when I was in distress. Be gracious to me and hear my prayer!” (Psalm 4:1, ESV, emphasis mine)

In the midst of trouble, David remembered the acts of God. Notice how the above phrase is in the past tense – “you have given me relief when I was in distress.” He’s not thanking the Lord for currently relieving his distressing circumstances.

What can we learn from David? In times of trouble, it’s helpful to remember with specificity the past acts of God’s relieving mercy and grace.

You and I have such a short-term memory. Because of sin, we’re all about the gratification and pleasure of today. When trouble comes knocking, we get absorbed in the immediate, forgetting what God has delivered us from in the past and what he’s transforming us into for the future.

David speaks gospel sense to his soul: “Remember, this is not new. I’ve experienced trouble in the past and God was good to me then. He remains good to me today, and what I’m facing is not out of his loving and wise rule.”

I would guess that David learned this theological skill from his ancestors. In the Old Testament, God stops the rushing waters of the Jordan River so the nation of Israel can cross on dry land. The Lord tells Joshua to set out 12 memorial stones. Why? “So that all the peoples of the earth may know that the hand of the Lord is mighty.” (Joshua 4:24)

I would encourage you to take notes from Joshua and David. Remember, with specificity, the good things God has done for you. Journal, take a picture, or do whatever else can help you, so when trouble comes knocking, you can say like David, “You have given me relief when I was I distress.”

God bless

Paul David Tripp
REFLECTION QUESTIONS:

How often do you talk to yourself?

Reflect on some of the things you’ve said to yourself in the past week. What were you saying to you?

What, or who, are some influences that can shape what you say to you?

What are some examples from your life when God has given you relief from distress?

How can you create “memorial stones” to remind yourself that the hand of the Lord is mighty?

Think it Not Strange

Think it Not Strange

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I was thinking about Thanksgiving the other day and I read something that stopped me.  It was this: “The pilgrims made seven times more graves than huts … nevertheless, set aside a day of thanksgiving.” Boy, doesn’t that say a lot!

Think about it.  Our forefathers—the courageous men and women, who came to this country on the Mayflower, had a pretty tough go of things.  And in spite of a huge loss of life and incredible hardship they kept their faith and thanked God, when all they had was a sorry place to live and the hope that they would grow or kill enough food to eat.  Others had been wiped out before them and they might be next, but they gave thanks anyway.

Just think about that for a moment and then think about your life.  We’ve all had pain in our lives, and maybe you have experienced hurt and suffering that is beyond what we think anyone should have to go through; yet we are called to pause and give thanks to God for Him and His incredible blessings no matter what our circumstances.   Read what the apostle, Paul, wrote: Be joyful; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus – 1 Thessalonians 5:16

Just the other day I was listening to a man who was facing prison time and all that would come and go with it.  When he sat down to dinner and asked God to bless the food, he realized that this was the first time in his life, he had thanked God for his food and been truly grateful for it.  Surely we don’t have to be facing time in prison to be thankful for what God provides for us everyday. 

For 25 years we really have been truly grateful to God for allowing us here at New Life to provide the ministry we have to fellow strugglers.

And you know, there has never been a time in our 25-year history that all of us at New Life have sensed, felt, and experienced a greater need for our ministry.  People get in trouble, experience hurt, and come face to face with the fact that what they trusted in and depended on is not there for them anymore.  

So, when the challenges, the fiery trials, and the tough times in life come your way, the apostle Peter reassures you that it is not unusual or unexpected: Beloved, think it not strange concerning the fiery trial which is to try you, as though some strange thing happened unto you – 1 Peter 4:12

I want to encourage you with this verse to allow a very old phrase to become part of your meditation during tough times: Think it not strange! Think it not strange when it all falls down or all falls apart. Think it not strange when your plans for the future seem impossible. Think it not strange that your faith, your faithfulness, and your generosity have not protected you from the realities of this fallen world. And . . . think it not strange that at the point of your greatest fear, pain, insecurity, desperation and loss, God wants you to support what He is doing.

Maybe you are like me, and you have found that giving God a portion of some excess brings very little satisfaction.  But when I give sacrificially, when it makes no sense, when I could make a strong case to not give, that is when my gift produces far more than I ever dreamed. When you give like that, that’s when your gift is more meaningful to God, it’s more meaningful to whom you choose to give it to, and it will prove to be more meaningful to you.

Two of the most meaningful gifts New Life has ever received were not the two largest gifts we ever received. One was a gift of $4.73.  It was from someone who called and told us  that was all he had left in his bank account; but that the radio program just had to stay on the air, so he was sending all he had. Boy was that humbling!  And it was meaningful to each and every staff member at New Life.  It’s had an impact on us like you can’t imagine! It made me so grateful that our President, Larry Sonnenburg, will stretch that $4.73 better than anyone I know.

The gift from the lady who wanted to commit to giving monthly to New Life also had a tremendous impact on us.  She knew that we ask for a minimum gift of $30 a month to become a member of Club New Life.  But all she could afford to give on a monthly basis was $2.  She knew it wouldn’t qualify her to be a Club New Life member, but she asked us to set her up within our automatic giving plan for her to give New Life $2 a month. These gifts were a great reminder to us that God doesn’t look at the size of the gift, but He looks at your heart and the sacrifice.

So . . . I am asking you to do two things:

1.  Acknowledge to God that you know there are going to be some amazingly good things that will come from the hurt and pain you might be going through.   And thank Him in advance, in the midst of your struggle, for the good that is yet to come . . . that is about to come if you’ll just persevere and endure.  You will, “Think it not strange!”

2.  Respond to God’s calling for you to give when it is toughest.  Not out of your excess, but give sacrificially when it makes the least sense, when it hurts the most. Think it not strange that this is exactly the time that God wants you to respond to His eternal plans rather than to your temporary earthly circumstances.

If you make a gift in response to this Thanksgiving greeting and challenge, I’ll thank you with a gift of The 7-Minute Marriage Solution Devotional Bible.

Thank you for partnering with us!

Happy Thanksgiving!

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DATING and the Single Parent

Dating and the Single Parent – Save $14

Dating and the Single ParentDating and the Single Parent by Ron L. Deal

Single parents who are dating or want to begin a dating relationship wonder, How will dating affect my children and my parenting? They probably have figured out that “dating in a crowd” is complicated. Now they’re looking for help.

Ron Deal, who has counseled single parents and remarried couples for many years, helps single parents – as well as those who date them – navigate the potential pitfalls involved. He gives perspective on when a relationship may be harmful to the children as well as how it can be a blessing to all. Always at the forefront is the goal of strengthening families. Includes questions for individual or group study.

A Search for Purple Cows: A True Story of Hope …… a must read for you who suffered similar and struggle with God’s view of you.

A wife and mother’s amazing journey from darkness into a life fully restored in God’s light.

A whimsical comment from a kind stranger, ‘Be sure to search for purple cows,’ brings hope to a woman and her children fleeing from a life filled with trouble. In A Search for Purple Cows, Susan Call reveals to the world how painful a relationship can be when love deteriorates into a cycle of abuse and betrayal. Her moving memoir chronicles how she first met her husband, a handsome, stylish, generous man with whom she worked. Eventually they fell in love, married, and had two children. Their life seemed idyllic — they had a beautiful home and everything a family could desire. But soon, inside those walls, Call was tormented by her husband’s alcoholism, domestic abuse, and infidelity that cast her family into a world fraught with fear and despair. God found her in the midst of her pain, and showed her, through the unlikely source of a Christian radio station, that a journey toward Him was possible even in the most unthinkable circumstances. Call eventually found the strength to move on and start anew. Written with candor and grace, A Search for Purple Cows will leave you laughing, crying, and believing that God is present and able, ready to bring hope and healing.

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So love and enjoy the people who treat you right.. seek them out, regular-like! Life is not the way it’s supposed to be. It’s the way it is. Look carefully in each picture for the cat as it makes its way down from the roof to the dog.

So love and enjoy the people who treat you right.. seek them out, regular-like! Life is not the way it's supposed to be. It's the way it is. Look carefully in each picture for the cat as it makes its way down from the roof to the dog.

The story behind this picture is this:
Every day – at the same time – she, the dog, waits for him, cat.
Sometimes she barks to call him.
He comes; they rub and greet each other and they go for a walk.
They have done this for 5 years and no, they don’t belong to the same owners. The owners didn’t know until neighbors, seeing them together so frequently, commented to the cat’s owner, who then followed the dog home and discovered it was a distance away, not in a house close by or next door. How it started no one knows.

Wouldn’t it be great to have friends like this, always there, no words needed, they just intuitively recognize the value of each other in their lives and act accordingly. Live, Laugh, Love. Life is not the way it’s supposed to be. It’s the way it is. The way we cope with it is what makes the difference.

A wise person once said, “There comes a time in life, when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it. You surround yourself with people who make you laugh, forget the bad, and focus on the good. So love the people who treat you right, pray for the ones who don’t. Life is too short to be anything but happy.” It is a choice.

Falling down is a part of life, getting back up is living.

What Does the Manual Say? Chapter 6

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Marriage is a matter of life time commitment. It was a law put into place by God.  God wanted a place of security for “family”, for mothers and babes and Relationships.  Keep in mind that God came up with Laws, rules, or “just say No”, for reasons that are good for You, me the children and family, not for Himself! He put life into place and gave us instructions how it would work out best, considering He was going to pass out some ‘free-will’ too, I think He did a great loving thing here. However, That damned devil isn’t going to have it! I mean he isn’t going to Hell alone that is! He plans on stealing as many humans that Jesus died for, from Him as he can. Today, it looks like he is taking a lot with him.

Recently I heard a teaching from Adrian Rogers for which I had to go back and rewind the tapes numerous times to write down what was said:    

Adultery is a sin against the “Home”. Innocent children’s lives are torn apart every year by Adultery.  The man who commits adultery tells his child, ” your mother is not worth much.” And he tells his children, “Your father is a liar and a cheat.”  Furthermore, Honor is not nearly as important as pleasure. “In, fact my child, my own satisfaction and pleasure are more important than you are.” (And, of course, vice versa.)

God established monogamous marriage to meet the deepest emotion physical psychological & spiritual needs of a child. Children need a home and sexual faithfulness is the glue of the family which is the basic foundation of society.

Why is Adultery such a hurtful, heinous, damning, terrible hellish sin? Because Adultery is a sin against ‘Self’. (see Corinthians 6:18 Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body )  There is no sin that does as much damage physically and psychologically.  (Consider  STD’s, Aids, cancer, abortions, depression, mistrust, division, separation & divorce) oh, and  Safe sex?….   God’s sex wasn’t made to be dangerous!     (Romans 2:22   You who say that people should not commit adultery, do you commit adultery? You who abhor idols, do you rob temples? 23 You who boast in the law, do you dishonor God by breaking the law? 24 As it is written: “God’s name is blasphemed among the Gentiles because of you.)    …. end of insert sermon notes….

We who call ourselves Christians, we commit another form of adultery against Jesus (are we not His Bride?) when we put ourselves on the Throne in the middle of our “World”.  Or maybe when we put our Desires first, instead of God’s, our Pleasures,… our Happiness, our must watch TV even, before God… so everyone of us can hurt from adultery, but Jesus, God hurts too…Especially when He heard us commit to Him. What does our relational walk and talk glorify?

 

Organizations you can donate time to in order not stay within your 4 walls at home alone!

Kencrest – they work with mentally challenged and give them jobs.

National Parks – give tours

Senior Centers

Salvation Army Helping out with serving meals and all

retirement homes – these people have great stories to tell and sometimes they have no one to visit them

Church – work with the youth group

Operation Back pack – in Pottstown they collect food so kids can have food on the weekends and throughout the summer.  (Buy some extra microwave single serve meals, fruit roll ups etc. I can get you the list.)  They always need help with filling the back packs.

Alex’s Lemonade Stand – they need help throughout the year with different events in the Philadelphia area.

There are different homes for kids under 18 in the area that always need mentors or people to help with yard work, cleaning, tutoring etc.

If you need help getting in touch with anyone with any of these organizations let me know.  Maybe we can get a group together and do a project together!

Facing My Loneliness Chapter 5

Why is “Loneliness” so painful? What kinds of words come to your mind to describe “loneliness”? Do any of these words fit for you? Cold-empty-aloness, ugly, ‘cast aside’, abandoned, unloved, unimportant, not needed, outcast, rejected, worthless, or insignificant? Let me remind you, these are feelings that will not last, it is just a response to abandonment and isolation and exiting a relationship bringing about BIG dissappointment! It will not stay with you for ever, it is just a Feeling… Feelings come and they go! This WILL go!

In the meantime, how will you deal with it? Be wise in your choices of dealing with your pain. Whose voice will you going to listen to in your head? This is not the time to dull the pain in alcohol, food or drugs. (antidepression medicine is not a “drug”, it does not dull the pain.)Neither is it healthy to get into opposite sex friendships. It is not the time to hang out with people all the time so that you can’t think or feel. It is not the time to always keep busy.

This is a time to become ‘introspective’. It is an opportunity to look into who you really are and how you got here. Furthermore, what do you want to do with this opportuniy to do ANYTHING different in life! It is a learning long moment in time. What you are feeling, many others feel. In the future you will be able to bridge more gaps to others who are hurting through various life scenarios you learn about. God allows things that will enable us to serve Him in the furture, to be His heart to others. In the meantime, humble yourself, allow others to ‘love’ on you! Don’t hide away too long, and don’t hurt yourself by or in doing so. Make new friends, look for new adventures…take an interest in things, places, and people, that you never have before! New doors WILL open up to you! Life is an adventure with a multifaceted emotional ride! Jesus said He will stick closer then your very sister mother or brother. (That includes a spouse in marriage too) Get to KNOW Him… You have the time now. Talk to Him all through out the day. Present your questions and hurts and listen in your spirit for His in put. This is who brought you into this world..and now is the time to determine if He will be by your side as you walk through the rest of life into the exit even. I suggest Make God your Center…. How do you do that? Go to the Link and look for Go Tandem. Sign up and answer the questions… Hey, a New adventure! Serve others, being less self focused will help in your healing. I have another link for many ideas on ways to Volunteer… You cannot be bored or lonely if you take some of this advice! Jesus…. Be My Center….do you know that song? It is sweet.

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Practice His Presence!

Practice His Presence!

I really hate it when I am on the train and I realize I forgot one of my electronic devices still plugged in at home! As my eyes were drawn to the kindle plugged in under my purse, I said aloud, “Thank You!” Rick, who does NOT pay attention to everything I say said,
“Who are you talking to?”
“Jesus.”
Most of you know It would have been to easy to overlook as I grabbed my purse and rushed out the door.

HOW IS YOUR DEPRESSION? HOW IS YOUR BALANCING ACT COMING ALONG? PHYSICAL? EMOTIONAL? & SPIRITUAL?

Not a good day to ask me these questions…. I had a rough week, topped off with a rough weekend.   I have hardly moved from the sofa last night or today. I bailed on church this morning.  Just didn’t want to put on the “happy” face and pretent everything is ok. I didn’t have the energy.  Having a very hard time shaking it all off. I go up and down.  Tired of having no money, dealing with stress and life issues alone, and topped the weekend off  by seeing “him” with “her” at his grandmother’s 90th birthday party.  I was there to celebrate with Mammy and include my daughter in the celebration. But it was far from easy.  And I just can’t seem to shake it since.

It’s only been 15 months and I can’t handle the loneliness… how am I going to feel in 2, 3, or 5 years.  My college daughter went back to school last week after the Christmas vacation and my 16 year old is working every weekend. I am spending more time alone than I care for.  I know I have lots of friends that always say.. .”just call. Your welcome any time”.  I know they mean well, but I can’t spend my whole life hopping from one friend’s house to another.  I need to accept that I am alone and learn how to deal with.  Lord knows, I have enough housework and home “stuff” that needs to get done.  I just can’t shake my depression some days and muster up the motivation to do anything.  I am counting the days til Spring and the sunshine.  I don’t think Winter helps me at all.  Just another down period to get through… the up will come eventually.  I can honestly say the good days were starting to out number the bad, but this week has made up for it I think.

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Kerry2013

Kerry2013

In Memory of Kerry, may this Blog be a Comfort place for you to come, a place to air our private thoughts, in the safety of a ‘secure’ zone, a place to draw encouragement from, & if no one is home, a place to link to the same through nite sounds, and so on….