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Men give away Cuddling Kisses Hugs and Whispers of Sweet Nothings, for Sex.

Women give away Sex, in exchange for Cuddling Kisses Hugs and Whispers of Sweet Nothings.

Girl… you say, “Oh what I wouldn’t do for a hug tonight!

Well…. He quietly thinks to himself,  “what I wouldn’t do for a climax tonight!”

Girls, is it, I ask,  right you should get your satisfaction met and he, not?

Be ye “Kind” and “Safe” to one another… for this is Real “Love”…

..In group one of our gals very recently was painfully honest and open about her past,

her testimony is priceless and sad. She asked her now soon to be X-husband of  more then 25 yrs,…

” Would you have married me if I had not of given you sex before marriage?” 

His answer. “Probably not.”  

Had she have held to this boundary, chances are she would have married a man who truly would have been

committed to her and her children… or never married at all, which would have spared her this particular pain.

Is “sex” worth all this?  I am not against sex! But it isn’t all its cracked up to be either! It is a very very

temporary high. It is not the premise upon which we should marry or date.  Sex is the Blessing of a harvest of

Truth and God’s kind of Love. However, Satan has deceived many today… Through songs, movies, porn, lies,

deceit, books, philosophy, immorality, rebellion, selfishness, self-centeredness, jealousy, disobedience,

carelessness, evil ploys, and wickedness. (what is wickedness?)  Broad is the way that leads to destruction!

Satan is all about destroy happiness, family, love…hurt the people, keep them from God!  Yeah Jesus died for

them, but no, lets keep them from Him! “Yeah, another one bites the dust!” the Enemy of our Soul says.

Narrow is the way to doing what is right, it is lonely except for Jesus companionship ans that of others

following Him. Only this route will get you to the true home-run! the Holy Spirit says.

Sex… sex…. Sex yeah lets think about sex.

Chapter 10: Single Sexuality

Chapter 10: Single Sexuality

If you find yourself tempted, ask God to speak to your heart. Ultimately, He’s who you’ll have to answer to. And if you place your trust in Him, I know that you will find Him faithful; faithful to you and faithful to His plan for you life. Don’t miss Him and miss His best for you.

If you become involved in a sexual relationship with someone you are not married to, or even if you decide to begin dating before you are divorced, you’ll likely start realizing that you are hiding from just about everyone. We talked about Adam and Eve in the garden, after they had given in to their temptation, tried to “hide” from God. If you truly believe that God is in this, why are you hiding? Why are you hiding from family, hiding from friends who care about you- you’re probably even trying to hide from God.

We talked a little before about rebounding, even in the Finance video discussion. Rebounding from the pain and trying to make ourselves feel better by buying stuff; clothing, jewelry, a new car. It’s often the same situation with our newly single sexuality. We’ve been rejected by the one person who promised that they wouldn’t– the one person that we counted on to be by our side. Wasn’t I (fill in the blank) enough? And it cuts us to the core. But what we really need, despite the recommendations of others, is to focus on ourselves and get comfortable in our singleness, be open to what God is teaching us, heal up from this hurt, and leave all that baggage behind, rather than bringing that into a new relationship.

Here’s my point- indulgence in a sexual relationship outside of marriage results in, most important to this discussion, a screwed-up relationship with God. Sure, you reject the friends and family that disagree with you, and have counseled against this, and eventually you’ll find other “friends” who won’t challenge you in your walk– friends who “just accept you”- yes, it’s easy to find replacements like that; the path of least resistance and all. “I’ll surround myself with people who make me feel good about my sin.” Nobody would admit to that, but thats what we do. These sorts of “friends” are all around us. But, you won’t be able to silence God’s voice. How long can you ignore that?

I don’t know how long I could hold out, either, so please know that we have a real heart of compassion for you. But please also know that I’m praying for you all that God’s grace would abound to you and that YOU would abound in grace, too.

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