“I don’t really know how we got here…but I feel like we’re going in different directions.”
“I’ve just been thinking about us for a couple of weeks and I don’t think we’re on the same page anymore.”
“No, I’m sorry. You were good to me. But this just isn’t going to work.”
It’s too easy to drift. To get distracted, to stop trying. Most relationships fall apart this way. Out of a growing indifference by one or both members. They stop putting effort into the relationship.
God condemns Israel throughout the Bible for their drifting away from him. He calls them whores and enemies of God. Says they drink the blood of the innocent. I’m sure they knew their lives were different. But I don’t imagine many Israelites saying, “My ultimate goal in life is to dishonor God.” They probably just convinced themselves God didn’t care anymore. That God only deals with big important things. Or maybe they just stopped thinking about it.
Is it possible to not know when you’re drifting away from God?
“I know all the things you do, that you are neither hot nor cold. I wish that you were one or the other!…You say ‘I am rich. I have everything I want. I don’t need a thing’…buy white garments from me so you will not be shamed by your nakedness, and ointment for your eyes so you will be able to see…be diligent and turn from your indifference” (Revelation 3).
Settling into indifference is painless. But turning from it takes work. I have to want a relationship with God. And I have to care if I don’t have one. Most people I know who don’t live for God aren’t doing it because they’re mad at him. Most of them just want to do whatever they want. Truly following Jesus takes too much work.
So it’s quite possible that an ungodly life is more often a result of apathy than of vengeance.