Facing My Anger Chapter 3

There is a lot to be ANGRY about!  There is betrayal hurt, lies, loss of dreamsdebt, loss of companionship, loss of some family and some friends, your home,…  What are you doing with YOUR anger?   Anger wrongly SUPPRESSED or wrongly EXPRESSED can hurt you and those who love you, in the short or long run.  

As you think back on issues regarding anger that struck you as you watched the video, evaluate yourself and your responses throughout this week.

Ephesians 4:26 says, “In your anger do not sin”. What kind of anger is sinful? How would you instruct someone as to the difference between good anger and bad? Do you express good anger and not feel guilty about it? (!!) What can anger “stuffed” do to hurt you or your ‘temple’? Do yourself a favor and find someone “safe” to express your anger to. (And its not someone who says, “now don’t be angry”…!)  Write out your anger on paper, then put it down. How does this feel? Is there release?

What does God say about Revenge? (Romans 12:19,  2 Thessalonians 1:6)  You can have  victory over bad anger in your life by letting the Holy Spirit guide you. (Galatians 5:16,  Ephesians 3:16 ) 

Our goal then, is to feel the anger, identify all that we feel and are angry about, with regard to our wayward spouse, that addicted spouse who was not there for Relationship,  the verbally/physically abusive spouse who destroyed rather then blessed us, and the absent spouse who abandoned Relationship.

   If you can deal with your anger in a healthy healing way, your life will be more peaceful, contented and serene. Eventually, even praying for that person’s soul can help. If there is a root of bitterness growing in your soul, you may find yourself continuously making sarcastic remarks about the wayward spouse. You may find yourself hoping for evil to befall them. Or you may hear yourself whining about how they are getting away with……  Don’t you worry, God promises that we all reap what we sow.  There are consequences to wrong choices.  Life here is short. Our pain from this ‘swat’ of the devil origin, will heal. We may have a scar, but God promises that all things can work together for good for those who love Him and put Him front and Center.  (Romans 8:28)

Any additions, discoveries in your homework, or epiphanies this week?

4 comments on “Facing My Anger Chapter 3

  1. Hi….I wish I knew why each time I’ve come to the support group, I leave feeling depressed….even if I’m not feeling depressed when I get there.  Aren’t support groups supposed to be uplifting?  Or is it just me??  Any thoughts?   Pat


  2. You are not the first person to feel this way. For one reason, perhaps you take on and carry, or feel deeply, the emotions and pain of others and carry this all away and home with you? Secondly, some folks come and are discouraged right away by all the pain they yet have to go through to reach healing. Thirdly perhaps you have been processing your divorce/sparation for a far longer time then others and are beyond the early pain, discouragement, and dissappointment, and hearing their pain, takes you back into your own history and memory? This much I can tell you, as a facilitator, I do not feel depressed after hearing all the pain. Why do you think that is?


  3. Yes, I do understand that feeling when you leave the support group. (I’m usually crying all the way home). My thought is, that all of the attendees have one thing in common, and that is the pain of divorce. And that is very depressing. I also feel that group brings up alot of subjects that we are not dealing with outside of the support group and confronts us right then and there. Depressing. Just want to let everyone know I’ve personally gained alot from the support group and thank you everyone for putting up with me through my good and bad weeks. Hang in there, you will enjoy the support from the group….



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